HOW TO WALK AWAY FROM A SIDEPIECE SITUATION – 3 PART SERIES PART 2: THE CHEATER’S PERSPECTIVE
- i am toniwo
- Mar 29, 2017
- 4 min read
We are all guilty of actions or judgments that are misguided or wrong, in other words, mistakes. And having a sidepiece situation in your life is a huge one. And why would you bring someone else in your relationship?
People get involved in situation-ships (sidepiece situations) for many reasons. Sometimes they know and understand the reasons. Other times, they just realize they want it and just go with it, not caring about the “whys and hows”. Situation-ships can be tricky at the best of times and can be downright dangerous at others. While having it can be one of the most exciting times of your life, ending it can be a lot harder than you think. When emotions are involved, it’s not as easy to walk away, however I can offer some advice to help you steer these troubled waters. Keep in mind during the break up process to never let things get out of hand because the last thing you want is your situation-ship break up to lead to losing your C.D.L. –Credit, Dick, Life. Most times when entering a situation with a sidepiece, you, as the cheater, believe that it will eventually end at some point. Being secretive, the hot, mind-blowing sex, and the excitement of it all can bring about some pretty intense emotions, some of which can easily be mistaken for love. It all makes you feel good by feeding into that ego, but only at first. Eventually it becomes more and more like a real relationship. The honeymoon wears off, as they say. Eventually, you decide it is time to stop but suddenly it doesn’t seem so cut and dry. You’re having strange guilty feelings, jealousy and you may even worry about hurting your sidepiece. Suddenly you realized you have developed emotional feelings for her. Whether it’s just sexual or a real true love is hard to determine. If you still love and cherish your masterpiece (wife or girlfriend), chances are it’s just residual sexual spark stirring up your emotions and confusing you. This makes leaving the sidepiece very hard. The only recourse is to spend some time alone deciding upon your breakup speech and stick to it. Think quick and painless.
On the flip-side, you could be perfectly fine with the arrangement and just ready to cut it off for whatever reason leaving the sidepiece in emotional distress. While you were happily sliding around in the situation-ship you looked at as innocent, harmless fun, the sidepiece was falling in love. You could have missed the signals, especially if she is playing her hand close to the vest. The problem begins when you tell the sidepiece it’s over. If she was harboring some kind of feelings for you in hopes that it would all turn into a full-fledged, real-deal relationship, you could be in all kinds of trouble. You can hope for the best and the worst it gets is some heartfelt tears and a sad goodbye or prepare for the worst, a pissed off sidepiece with a mean streak and a mind full of vengeance. They’re both unfavorable results but the latter can be dangerous for you and others close to you.
What you don’t want to happen is some kind of Fatal Attraction scenario where you find your crazy, love struck sidepiece has killed and boiled your kid’s bunny. If your sidepiece is one of these types that could end up as a case on Snapped, you really should have picked up on that somewhere along the line. But I have heard many times, from many cheaters, crazy sex is the best sex. If not, there isn’t much that can save you now. You better protect your CDL. These types don’t like to give up. Don’t be deceived by a big butt and a smile. Crazy sidepieces in love have been known to have done their recon and they know quite a bit about you, things far worse than just telling your masterpiece about the affair. They can ruin your credit, give you a disease or even end your life (personally, professionally and physically). Your one saving grace may be the authorities. If you can manage to get a restraining or have her arrested without your masterpiece’s knowledge you could be home free. Usually, a threat of incarceration or something life altering will be enough to convince her to move on with her life. Sometimes. Then there are connections between you and your sidepiece that make breaking it off challenging. Especially if you shit where you eat. Meaning, if you start a situation-ship with someone are work, have mutual friends or live in the same apartment building. The shit-where- you eat connections can keep bringing you together, making it that much harder to make the split. To surpass this issue, you have to have a firm resolution to forge through the break up and carry on with your life. It is easy to fall back into the same old routine with your sidepiece when you are forced together by circumstance. Fighting to keep your resolve can be the hardest part of the split.
If you went gallivanting into an affair without giving any thought to how it will end, you are in for a surprise when any of these issues smacks you right in the face. Sure, you could be one of the lucky ones. Maybe your sidepiece will find someone new, understand her position disappearing quietly into the darkness, or perhaps she will cut you off, leaving you a little pain in your heart but no blood on your hands. However, the odds are not in your favor. You’re more likely to experience one or more of the situations above. The best thing to do is know what you are getting into before having a situation-ship. Better safe than being a dumb-ass.
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